‘Triggers’! What are they? No! I can’t tell you. I’m not that good! I am just someone who has worked in the domestic abuse sector for 26 years and writes a blog! I want to know from YOU! Why? Because I get them and it wasn’t until recently that I realised that the feelings I sometimes get were triggers.
Thank you for being so candid. You really are brave and strong, which doesn't diminish the struggles you've faced throughout your life. Its amazing how therapy uncovers what lies beneath our thoughts. I get triggered ALL the time, as the shock and fear of them is starting to lesson and the understanding of where the feelings were coming from, some ( very few) I can actually laugh about, becuase things are now making sense, the gaslighting hold is fading.
Hardest thing I've ever had to do and now practice...is sitting with your feelings, recognising it, observing it, letting is wash over you and out of you. Triggers could be a way of helping us work through and let go of all the horrors, making way/ space for the opposites, the good things.
Have courage, you're doing it anyway and you're doing better than you think. We all tend to be far too harsh on ourselves...got to be our own best friends too xxx
Thank you so much for your thoughts Newbie. I really do appreciate it.
Thank you for being so candid. You really are brave and strong, which doesn't diminish the struggles you've faced throughout your life. Its amazing how therapy uncovers what lies beneath our thoughts. I get triggered ALL the time, as the shock and fear of them is starting to lesson and the understanding of where the feelings were coming from, some ( very few) I can actually laugh about, becuase things are now making sense, the gaslighting hold is fading.
Hardest thing I've ever had to do and now practice...is sitting with your feelings, recognising it, observing it, letting is wash over you and out of you. Triggers could be a way of helping us work through and let go of all the horrors, making way/ space for the opposites, the good things.
Have courage, you're doing it anyway and you're doing better than you think. We all tend to be far too harsh on ourselves...got to be our own best friends too xxx