Over the years, women that I have worked with, and more recently, women on my Freedom Programmes have described to me how they have felt that they were to blame for the abuse they experienced from their abusive partners. They felt that they too, have been abusive in the relationship and their partner/ex partner's have told them that they are being abusive and that they are merely retaliating! They tell me they have argued back, yelled, screamed, thrown things and even been physically violent and that surely if they are doing these things they must also be abusive?!
This was definitely me. But I realised that you should never have to defend yourself physically or mentally against anyone who is supposed to love you.
This was definitely me. But I realised that you should never have to defend yourself physically or mentally against anyone who is supposed to love you.