Excellent summary! And a much needed little reminder..... after having attended this course by Sharon, following an awful abusive relationship- spanning over 3 years (only 1 of which we were together , the other 2 have been the backlash of ending things) I can honestly say I am now so aware of the red flags.
For years , in many relationships I ignored red flags, I attracted / gravitated towards abusive men.... it’s not been until this last year and a half I have reflected upon why this is.... and as you say Sharon- I feel there is no one main reason, but multiple. These being you’re own low self esteem, believing you aren’t worthy of any better or in the case of a pure narcissistic partner seeking you out -you’re a strong independent , intelligent woman and you have attributes they need or want in their life. I have tried to date but am so switched on now I see red flags very soon and have walked away from a handful of potential daters..... stil single and not settling. forever grateful to myself for putting the work in but also to the course ❤️🙌🏻
Thank you Hayley and so lovely to hear from you. I couldn't have put this better myself. You are so right as well about seeking out strong, independent women. We are all strong and independent at the start aren't we?!
Do you know what? You may be single but you are SAFE! And that is the most important thing. Thanks for getting the conversation started Hayley. I hope others join in as this is such an important subject. XXX
I probably put that in the wrong order, I believe we are sought out by Certain partners, for having beneficial qualities to them -mentioned in my first comment. These are all the things they love about you to start, then we know how it goes..... knock you down so low you don’t know you are , what your name is and how you’re going to get through life. I believe it is then, when you’re vulnerable, after this type of relationship you go looking or are attracted to another bad character , maybe the love bomber / saviour type character , whom makes you feel safe and secure- as usually you’re still fearing your ex partner. I believe the Rocky path of abusive partners then carries on, a long cycle. I often wondered as a younger me... ‘why do these women choose these men’ all blame was at the feet of the women, in my mind. But now having been one of those women... I have felt fully judged by society towards my decisions. So this definitely needs to be discussed!!!! I am so glad I have cut the cycle and put in the work to see what I’ve been doing and why. But I know I can never say never, we can all easily be duped again at any stage of our journeys!! But knowledge is power and these courses and discussions are imperative to stay on track. So thank you for posting ❤️❤️❤️
We're human, and have hope. We're not to blame. I've berated myself for too long for being such a fool, but I was simply open and honest and lied to. Sharon, you're a beacon and inspiration, thank goodness for you and working with us. You get it and keep striving, despite all kinds of hardships. Life is full of ups and downs, how we cope with it, is what matters. X .
Excellent summary! And a much needed little reminder..... after having attended this course by Sharon, following an awful abusive relationship- spanning over 3 years (only 1 of which we were together , the other 2 have been the backlash of ending things) I can honestly say I am now so aware of the red flags.
For years , in many relationships I ignored red flags, I attracted / gravitated towards abusive men.... it’s not been until this last year and a half I have reflected upon why this is.... and as you say Sharon- I feel there is no one main reason, but multiple. These being you’re own low self esteem, believing you aren’t worthy of any better or in the case of a pure narcissistic partner seeking you out -you’re a strong independent , intelligent woman and you have attributes they need or want in their life. I have tried to date but am so switched on now I see red flags very soon and have walked away from a handful of potential daters..... stil single and not settling. forever grateful to myself for putting the work in but also to the course ❤️🙌🏻
Thank you Hayley and so lovely to hear from you. I couldn't have put this better myself. You are so right as well about seeking out strong, independent women. We are all strong and independent at the start aren't we?!
Do you know what? You may be single but you are SAFE! And that is the most important thing. Thanks for getting the conversation started Hayley. I hope others join in as this is such an important subject. XXX
You’re so very welcome Sharon!
I probably put that in the wrong order, I believe we are sought out by Certain partners, for having beneficial qualities to them -mentioned in my first comment. These are all the things they love about you to start, then we know how it goes..... knock you down so low you don’t know you are , what your name is and how you’re going to get through life. I believe it is then, when you’re vulnerable, after this type of relationship you go looking or are attracted to another bad character , maybe the love bomber / saviour type character , whom makes you feel safe and secure- as usually you’re still fearing your ex partner. I believe the Rocky path of abusive partners then carries on, a long cycle. I often wondered as a younger me... ‘why do these women choose these men’ all blame was at the feet of the women, in my mind. But now having been one of those women... I have felt fully judged by society towards my decisions. So this definitely needs to be discussed!!!! I am so glad I have cut the cycle and put in the work to see what I’ve been doing and why. But I know I can never say never, we can all easily be duped again at any stage of our journeys!! But knowledge is power and these courses and discussions are imperative to stay on track. So thank you for posting ❤️❤️❤️
We're human, and have hope. We're not to blame. I've berated myself for too long for being such a fool, but I was simply open and honest and lied to. Sharon, you're a beacon and inspiration, thank goodness for you and working with us. You get it and keep striving, despite all kinds of hardships. Life is full of ups and downs, how we cope with it, is what matters. X .